Laws are created to keep people safe.
Laws are also created to teach.
Why is it that the laws can also hurt those that need them the most? The children?
Recently Randy and I were contacted by a private party and asked if we wanted to adopt a child. Of course we said "Yes, but.."
After all the research into private adoption in Montana, hiring a lawyer, starting the processes which included TONS of research and secret meetings with the lawyers, bio-parent, etc., it was decided today not to persue.
My heart is heavy today but I will hold my head high and know I did what was right and I will find a way to make things better.
Its not worth spending the $ to fight a battle we can not legally win. It is next to impossible for me to feel like I did the right thing right now. A mother made an EXTREMELY hard decision in contacting my husband and I, pouring her heart out to us and asking us to do the hardest thing in her eyes. Take her child from her but she knew she was asking the right thing.
Having been in her shoes recently with loosng children (foster kids) that I love, I know how she could be feeling.
But then for her to learn of Randy and I, who we are, what we stand for, and to be comfortable with us and ok with the fact that we would be AMAZING parents to her daughter and fullfilling our dreams made her extremely happy.
Making the decision to put your childs benefits above yourself is courageous, honest, and in my opionion one of the most gracious acts one could do and I commend her for that. But in the same sense I am horrified at the aspect that this mother knows she is in over her head and asked for help and is not going to be able to get it. Randy and I will remain in contact and help in ways we can as a mentor/friend but it is hard when one is put in these situations with essentially a dead end.
One of the hardest things was hiding this excitement/aniety/fear from out family and friends.
I just dont know, I just dont get it. I guess its time to make a change, the CHILDREN need to come first. THEIR BENEIFTS, THEIR NEEDS, THEIR WANTS, THERE LIVES NEED TO COME FIRST.
Its time to make a change...
Its time to do more reasearch...
Its time to make some calls, write some letters, make some noise...
I am going to do this for the children who don't have a voice, while persuing our dream of saving/raising $ for adoption..
Laws are also created to teach.
Why is it that the laws can also hurt those that need them the most? The children?
Recently Randy and I were contacted by a private party and asked if we wanted to adopt a child. Of course we said "Yes, but.."
After all the research into private adoption in Montana, hiring a lawyer, starting the processes which included TONS of research and secret meetings with the lawyers, bio-parent, etc., it was decided today not to persue.
My heart is heavy today but I will hold my head high and know I did what was right and I will find a way to make things better.
Its not worth spending the $ to fight a battle we can not legally win. It is next to impossible for me to feel like I did the right thing right now. A mother made an EXTREMELY hard decision in contacting my husband and I, pouring her heart out to us and asking us to do the hardest thing in her eyes. Take her child from her but she knew she was asking the right thing.
Having been in her shoes recently with loosng children (foster kids) that I love, I know how she could be feeling.
But then for her to learn of Randy and I, who we are, what we stand for, and to be comfortable with us and ok with the fact that we would be AMAZING parents to her daughter and fullfilling our dreams made her extremely happy.
Making the decision to put your childs benefits above yourself is courageous, honest, and in my opionion one of the most gracious acts one could do and I commend her for that. But in the same sense I am horrified at the aspect that this mother knows she is in over her head and asked for help and is not going to be able to get it. Randy and I will remain in contact and help in ways we can as a mentor/friend but it is hard when one is put in these situations with essentially a dead end.
One of the hardest things was hiding this excitement/aniety/fear from out family and friends.
I just dont know, I just dont get it. I guess its time to make a change, the CHILDREN need to come first. THEIR BENEIFTS, THEIR NEEDS, THEIR WANTS, THERE LIVES NEED TO COME FIRST.
Its time to make a change...
Its time to do more reasearch...
Its time to make some calls, write some letters, make some noise...
I am going to do this for the children who don't have a voice, while persuing our dream of saving/raising $ for adoption..